Welcome!

My name is Daniel Mackler and I am a psychotherapist in New York City.  (Feel free to visit my therapy website: www.macklertherapy.com.)  My essays focus on the causes, consequences, and radical significance of childhood trauma.  I see childhood traumas as ranging from the extreme, which are common, to the mild, which are so much MORE common that few even notice them at all, much less call them by their proper name.  I view the norm in our culture as being highly traumatized, and I view the average, and even above-average, childhood as being extremely traumatic – and the average parent as lacking both awareness of this and deep empathy for the child.  I have come to realize the incredible denial most people have around trauma and its consequences, and this has motivated me to expose this denial to the best of my ability. 

I see our world growing more pathological, confused, polluted, overpopulated, and disturbed by the day – and I feel that to stand by and say nothing while we destroy our planet is irresponsible and even criminal.  Yet I write these essays with great hope – both for individual healing and for the collective healing of our world.  I seek to offer a new perspective – on psychology, on relationships, on enlightenment, on truth, on sex, on narcissism, on healing, on trauma, on life’s purpose, on parenting, on celibacy, on the pathology of the family system, and on the future of our species.

ESSAYS THAT EXPRESS AND FLESH OUT MY BASIC POINT OF VIEW

The Fundamentals Of My Perspective On Enlightenment And Healing From Unresolved Trauma.

What Constitutes Child Abuse?

We Are Destroying Our Planet, And We Are Responsible.

The Traumatized Are Safe.

Dissociation Mimics Enlightenment. 

Truth Is Not Subjective. 

The basis for all childhood trauma starts in the family, with parents, and for that reason I devote much of my energy to the study of parenting and families – and to studying the experience and consequences of being a child in a partially unenlightened family.

ESSAYS ON PARENTING, FAMILIES, PROCREATION, AND WANTING TO BECOME A PARENT

Eleven Situations In Which It Is Not Appropriate For You To Have Children.

Why Do People Really Have Children? 

Better Late Than Never:  Twelve Suggestions For Parents Seeking Enlightenment.

The Good-Enough Mother:  NOT GOOD ENOUGH!

34 Reasons To Circumcise Your Beloved Newborn Baby Boy

Children Own Their Parents.

A License To Procreate:  Putting A Stop To Inappropriate Parents

Spoiling A Child Is Not Love.

The Spiritual Rights Of The Child.

Adoption Is Not The Enlightened Way To Have Children.

The Baby's Manifesto.

Family: The Prototypical Cult.

The Gravity Of The Family System.

Jesus Rejected His Mother.

 

Although my essays are intense, I sometimes write in a lighter vein.  For a humorous view into my perspective, try:   The Hypocrite's Dictionary:  A Peek Into The Mindset Behind Hypocrisy.

 

Also feel free to view a list of a sayings that I have written, as well my amazon.com book reviews.  My amazon.com critique of Judith Herman’s classic “Trauma and Recovery,” in particular, expresses my point of view on trauma in a nutshell.

 

ESSAYS ON THERAPY, PSYCHOLOGY, MENTAL HEALTH, AND DIAGNOSIS 

Dissatisfaction Is Mentally Healthy.

So What The Hell Is Narcissism Anyway?

Three Differences Between Therapy & Friendship.

Borderline: The Hated Diagnosis.

Psychotropic Medication Stunts Emotional Growth.

Why Hypnotherapy Is Disrespectful.

Suicide: The Ultimate Way To Avoid The Painful Truth.

What Does High Functioning So Often Disguise?

Shouldn't The Best Therapy Be Free?

What Makes A Healer?

The Limits Of Faith Healers.

The Truth About Spirituality.

Case Studies: No Respect For Therapeutic Confidentiality. 

 What Lurks Behind Guilt.

Every Rapist Was Himself Raped. 

Racism: A Safety Valve Against Hating Your Parents

Genetics Behind Psychopathology:  A Convenient Excuse For Parents

Ten Ways To Be A Vague (Psychology) Writer.

A Fictional Psychiatric Intake Evaluation – With A Twist!

 

 

Although I am a therapist by trade, I am a radical believer in the power of self-therapy – mostly because I have seen how much it works, both in myself and in others.  It’s also a lot cheaper than going to a therapist – much as it requires a huge amount of self-motivation, self-confidence, and self-guidance.  What I have found, however, is that being in self-therapy and being in psychotherapy with a professional therapist can dovetail nicely, as long as the therapist recognizes that the patient is the real healer and that self-therapy comes first!

ESSAYS ON SELF-THERAPY AND HEALING FROM UNRESOLVED CHILDHOOD TRAUMA 

Self-Therapy:  Eleven Ways To Be Your Own Therapist.

Eighteen Ways To Speed Up The Path To Enlightenment. 

The Value Of Dream Analysis.

Does Growth Have To Be Painful?

Grieving The Ultimate Loss: Your Imperfect Parents.

The Four Stages On The Path To Enlightenment.

Passion: The Fuel For The Journey.

The Risks Of Emotional Healing.

Confronting Parents: Value And Risk.

Fear: A Byproduct Of Moving Forward.

The Power Of Honesty.

Alcoholics Anonymous:  Its Value And Danger.

Self-Doubt: Your Parents Still Live In Your Head.

The Twelve Steps Of AA:  A Translation Into Reality


And now my critiques of relationships, sex, and romance – that is, my critiques of the opiate of the masses…

ESSAYS ON SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, ROMANCE, AND CELIBACY 

Why Sex Is Inappropriate For Most People

Masturbation: Fantasy Rescue By The Parents.

If The Healthiest People Remain Celibate What Happens To The Future Of Our Species?

Homosexuality: A Chance For Human Evolution.

Gandhi: A Damaged Man Ahead Of His Very Damaged Time.

Relationships: What Lies Underneath Them.

 

And to expand my point of view:

 

GENERAL ESSAYS ON ENLIGHTENMENT AND UNRESOLVED CHILDHOOD TRAUMA  

The Enlightened Person Balances Masculinity & Femininity

 Three Ways To Make Amends.

The Essential Difference Between Animals And Humans.

Father’s Day: Another Sick Holiday.

Everyone Is His Own Hated Minority.

On Being A New Species.

Most Meditation Teaches Mice To Be Happy With Their Lot.

Self-Defense: Only Valid If You Know Your SELF.

The Death Penalty: A Death Sentence For Evolution.

Why Live If We’re All Only Going To Die Anyway?

Jesus's Sermon On The Mount:  A New Translation And Interpretation.

What We Failed To Learn From 9/11.

Climate Change:  The Gods Are Not Punishing Us - We're Doing It To Ourselves.

The Advantages Of Being Conventional.

To Those Who Have Given Up Hope.

Who Was Clarence Darrow Really Defending?

Overpopulation: It’s Time For The Old Species To Die Out.

Why People Are So Terrified Of Death. 


And now, some longer essays.  Although my essay on Alice Miller – my favorite writer in the psychology field – is quite a bit more lengthy than my other essays, I believe it is well worth the read – and may be the most important piece on this website.

 

LONGER, ANALYTICAL ESSAYS (WITH REFERENCES!) 

An Analysis Of The Limits Of Alice Miller.

An Analysis Of The Shadow Side Of Frieda Fromm-Reichmann.

Why Are Gay People Gay?

 

And finally, a three-part assessment of the life, the scientific findings, and the self-therapy method of Elnora Van Winkle, the creator of Redirecting Self Therapy (RST):

 

ON ELNORA VAN WINKLE

I was introduced to the work of Elnora Van Winkle by some members of this website’s bulletin board.  Van Winkle is a now-deceased scientist and psychological theorist who wrote about healing one’s traumas and mental illness through redirecting one’s buried anger back to one’s original traumatizers, primarily one’s parents.  She claims to have discovered a foolproof method for recovery – which of course piqued my interest.

I have provided a link to websites about her work.  Although some of the writing by her is disjointed and difficult to follow, it is worth perusing nonetheless in order to get a background for the three critiques that are to follow:

 

Link 1:  www.gocure.com

Link 2: www.redirectingselftherapy.com

 

Oddly enough, I discovered that I read Van Winkle’s work years ago.  A close friend and colleague of mine in New York City, Frederick Timm, had been friends with Van Winkle for years and knew her well.  Because the biographical information on her websites is limited, and is all based on self-reporting, I asked Fred Timm if he would grant an interview about Van Winkle, and he agreed.  It provides a fascinating – and penetrating – view into her character, background, and work.

 

VAN WINKLE CRITIQUE #1:

Interview With Frederick Timm About Elnora Van Winkle, The Creator of Redirecting Self Therapy.

 

By her own account, Van Winkle’s self-therapy methods hinge on her neurochemical theories, but as I am no neuroscientist, I could not assess their accuracy myself.  I contacted Grace Jackson, M.D., a prominent psychiatrist who publishes and lectures widely about the dangerous effects of psychiatric medications, and she agreed to assess Van Winkle’s scientific findings.  Her paper, which is easy to read and doesn’t mince words, is quite surprising – and shows us a thing or two about good science!

 

First, a bio of Dr. Jackson.

 

VAN WINKLE CRITIQUE #2:

The Toxic Mind: The Biology Of Mental Illness And Violence –

A Brief Critique Of E. Van Winkle’s Hypothesis

By Grace Jackson, M.D.

 

And finally, to wrap it all up, I wrote an overall assessment of Van Winkle’s work.

 

VAN WINKLE CRITIQUE #3:

An Assessment Of The Self-Therapy Methods of Elnora Van Winkle.

 

 

EMAIL:  dmackler58@aol.com

© 2006 Daniel Mackler, LCSW